Hello! Did you know that complaining is sin? Well, before you ask me to give evidence to confirm the allegation, picture this…the opposite of complaining is being grateful. When we complain we only focus on what is wrong with somebody, something or a situation. We do not consider the opportunities in that situation. When we make complaints to God, we are actually saying we do not trust him to see us through that circumstance.
When my son was younger, I had a difficult time finding a consistent caregiver. I had one almost every three months, some did not last more than a month. I wondered whether my son was a difficult baby or I had unreasonably high standards.
One day at work we exchanged pleasantries with a colleague that led to my ranting about how difficult it was to find a good caregiver. My colleague supported me all the while, encouraging me that someday I would find the caregiver that I was looking for. Then she told me that she had had one for over two years to which I replied, “You are so lucky!” “No I am not,” she disagreed.
At that point, I was confused. How could one be unlucky when they had reliable help for over two years! My colleague’s response to this question broke my heart. Here I was complaining about not having a consistent caregiver when she did not complain that she did not have a child. I was left speechless and motionless. The longing look in her eyes and the wish for a child haunted me. I managed to whisper, “I am sorry.” She was quick to end our conversation and I left with a very heavy heart. I wished I had hugged her. At my desk, I prayed for her and enlisted a friend of mine to pray for her as well. I mentally counted my blessings and my heart was filled with gratitude for the things I had taken for granted up to this moment.
My colleague and I had attended the same church, but she joined her husband’s church when she got married. I did not see her until we reconnected at my place of work. Every other day we had exchanged pleasantries, she could ask how my family was doing and I would ask the same. For some reason, we never talked about children. Something always held me back. I assumed that since she got married about 3 years before me, she already had children. Although I am still guilty of complaining once in a while, I am now more aware and sensitive about the things I complain about.
I have learned to count my blessings and name them one by one when motherhood is overwhelming:
- A healthy child
- The ability to provide
- Smiles and giggles
- A cuddly hug
- A roof over our heads
- Free air and sunshine
- A family
I have also learned that there is always a person somewhere who is in a worse situation than you are; so be grateful in whatever circumstance.
How do you maintain a spirit of gratitude when motherhood is overwhelming? Leave me a reply.